How To Be a Winner / Life Advise
How to approach life as you grow on?., this blog gonna be amazing, as it will end up adding value into the lives of readers .so one of my friend suggested me to write on this topic, so most of you guys are young,studing in universities or would be students, so i am gonna give you a bit of guidance about how to approach a life .So lets begain,so the first thing i am gonna talk about is girls-
1. Stop Chasing Girls
For a guy girls are something which occupy the back of head almost 24*7.Even most of the people who step foot inside the gym they come in with the objective of looking better in order to get girls or meet girls inside the gym.So what i want to talk about today is how to stop making girls the center of your life and how if you step foot in gym,how if you pursue a career , how if you take any decision in your life, it should not be to get more girls,it should be basically to make better version of yourself.
I Pre assume you all are between age group of 18-25 years or most of you.So many of you would be right now dating your first girlfriend or would be experiencing your first relationship, having there first breakup , having there first cheating experiences in case the girl cheats or you cheat. So i want to say that basically stop giving shit about all of this as much.Because it sucks up a lot of your energy and you are at very crucial stage in your life right now where you need to focus on who you want to turn out to be as a man.Not about OMG love of my life left me i'm only 19 i will never gonna get married .NO! not stuff like that.
Basically start focusing on what you want to do in your life and that could be anything from your career, studies and stuff like that because girls will come and go.They are not really worth all that attention that you pay towards them either subconciously or conciously. And the thing is on both the long term and short term you need to focus on developing yourself, more you develop yourself the success with girls will come to you easily and very freely towards you.
And another thing i will tell you about not chasing girls or not putting your mind around girls and channeling your life in away to get more girls ,what i would say is that just STAY SINGLE.And why do i say that? staying single does't mean not having sex, staying single does not mean not getting love.So let me talk about what you can get if you are single.First of all the interaction with opposite sex you will get will be better.You do not have a sense of guarantee that this person is always going to be there and there is no comfort and there is no anticipation and there is no predictibility. Anyway that was just one random point that i talk about.
Another thing is that you will not have liabilities,when you are in a relationship you feel obligated to do stuff for your girlfriend or your wife or do stuff like that.You feel like you have duties and responsibilities and you know what innerway they act as mental chains or barriers to your freewill and freedom.Basically,if you are single you will be more in tune with yourself you can go with the flow you can do what you want to do and you will not be weight down by these kind of mental weights.
And the thing is when i said you can still have love in your life while you are single, i have been personally single and i have been in love at the same time. Being in love does't mean being married, being in love does't mean being with your soulmate, being in love does not mean anything which society has taught you to believe that what it means. So a lot of you been grown up thinking of that the guy has to spend money on girls or a guy has to do stuff for girls or this is the only way to get the girlfriend. you know whatever they show in the movie, daily soap's ,media, magazine's and stuff like that. I want you to understand that "you are choosing to believe in it that's why you are living life like that".
If you see other ways of doing things, like you can be single and love somebody and being loved at the same time.You can be single and not have any responsibilities not have any duties but still have a person you can confide in, still get emotional support,still feel wanted,still feel appreciated and have all of that.So a lot you might having a question in your mind that girls are not really gonna agree to something like this.Who the f8ck cares about the girls and who the f8ck cares about what anybody else thinks. You decide how you want your life to be , if you want in your life to have a girl who lives like this because you choose to live like this you will find somebody who will choose to live like this.
Ultimately you have to make your life in such away that you get what you want and if you will make yourself deserving enough and worthy enough by not chasing girls by not going to gym to only impress girls and stuff like that,you will get what you want.You need to understand that your worthiness will improve because your focus and time will go towards bettering yourself and developing yourself.
2. Do Whatever You Want To Do
Ironically you are at very crucial stage of your life right now and you are actually in very advantageous stage also ,because you are at an age where you can take on the real world yourself and at same time you have the backing of your parents.You have resource support from your parents ,you have financial support , you have emotional support you have a family basically .I want you to think to all of that as a launchpad which you can use to do what you want to do in your life.
The thing is longer you will leave your dreams and think that when in time everything is going to be perfect at that time i will start pursuing my dream or when i will earned enough
or when i will be married or when i will have this or have that,when you set those conditions that in future when this happens than i will start pursuing my dream it will never happens.
Because first of all plan fails things never go hundred percent according to plan.Second the thing which you cant do today how can you do ten years later.Why can't you achieve what you want to achieve ten years later today.Who is stopping you? What is the barrier?
Right now you have no responsibilities you have no duties , you are not married, you don't have kids , you don't have a house to run.But you are in age where you can get a pull to yourself into your dreams using a support system that you already have.
Chase time not money don't do a degree by thinking that it will land you a good job and you will earn a decent amount of money and that money is everything. NO Money is nothing trust me that, alright you can be the richest guy on the planet but if you are not living in tune with yourself if you are doing things that comes naturally to you, everything will seem like a bullshit.So before its too late i want you to think out for the life that you are leading yourself to.So remember that you must chase time not money because money can be earned and money can be spend blah blah blah .But you can't do shit to time.Its available but at the same time its not available.Its so limited that you need to focus on creating more time your life because you have to think in terms of earning time.
3. Detach From Your Parents
Learn how to detach yourself from parents.And what i mean to say is that how i see society nowadays is that most of us are basically grown up children walking around.Even at the age of 25-26 sometimes even upto the age of thirty we are not really detached and become soul wholesome individuals to our functioning and contribution to our society.I want you to think that today if somehow you are in middle of a jungle without your parents support in terms of money,in terms of emotional support ,in terms of the love you get from them , in terms of the sense of belongingness that you feel with them .Could you be able to manage your living?could you be able to survive?
You always have in back of your mind that you can always fall back on your parents. I want you to let go of that and want you to work on the path where today if you have nothing in your life including your parents even though that is a very scary thought, that you can stand on your own two feet and you don't have to worry about anything else.That is where i want you to head towards.I don't want you to head towards better body, i don't want you to head towards getting a better girl all of that should be supplementary to making you a man who can be friend for himself as well as care for others if need be.
Alot of time what i see is even if guy's get a girlfriend they start using the girlfriend almost as a mother or a sister that is not what should be happening.You should be manly first and for most to be able to become a man and then everything else should derived from that.Then your approach towards everything will change your approach towards life,your approach toward the work you do, your approach towards the kind of girl you want in your life.All of that will change because it will come from higher sense of purpose.Because your goals will be different it won't be just about getting a hot girl, it won't be about getting a six pack and getting 200 likes on Facebook.Its gona be much deeper than that and i want you to think about that.
I Pre assume you all are between age group of 18-25 years or most of you.So many of you would be right now dating your first girlfriend or would be experiencing your first relationship, having there first breakup , having there first cheating experiences in case the girl cheats or you cheat. So i want to say that basically stop giving shit about all of this as much.Because it sucks up a lot of your energy and you are at very crucial stage in your life right now where you need to focus on who you want to turn out to be as a man.Not about OMG love of my life left me i'm only 19 i will never gonna get married .NO! not stuff like that.
Basically start focusing on what you want to do in your life and that could be anything from your career, studies and stuff like that because girls will come and go.They are not really worth all that attention that you pay towards them either subconciously or conciously. And the thing is on both the long term and short term you need to focus on developing yourself, more you develop yourself the success with girls will come to you easily and very freely towards you.
And another thing i will tell you about not chasing girls or not putting your mind around girls and channeling your life in away to get more girls ,what i would say is that just STAY SINGLE.And why do i say that? staying single does't mean not having sex, staying single does not mean not getting love.So let me talk about what you can get if you are single.First of all the interaction with opposite sex you will get will be better.You do not have a sense of guarantee that this person is always going to be there and there is no comfort and there is no anticipation and there is no predictibility. Anyway that was just one random point that i talk about.
And the thing is when i said you can still have love in your life while you are single, i have been personally single and i have been in love at the same time. Being in love does't mean being married, being in love does't mean being with your soulmate, being in love does not mean anything which society has taught you to believe that what it means. So a lot of you been grown up thinking of that the guy has to spend money on girls or a guy has to do stuff for girls or this is the only way to get the girlfriend. you know whatever they show in the movie, daily soap's ,media, magazine's and stuff like that. I want you to understand that "you are choosing to believe in it that's why you are living life like that".
If you see other ways of doing things, like you can be single and love somebody and being loved at the same time.You can be single and not have any responsibilities not have any duties but still have a person you can confide in, still get emotional support,still feel wanted,still feel appreciated and have all of that.So a lot you might having a question in your mind that girls are not really gonna agree to something like this.Who the f8ck cares about the girls and who the f8ck cares about what anybody else thinks. You decide how you want your life to be , if you want in your life to have a girl who lives like this because you choose to live like this you will find somebody who will choose to live like this.
Ultimately you have to make your life in such away that you get what you want and if you will make yourself deserving enough and worthy enough by not chasing girls by not going to gym to only impress girls and stuff like that,you will get what you want.You need to understand that your worthiness will improve because your focus and time will go towards bettering yourself and developing yourself.
2. Do Whatever You Want To Do
Ironically you are at very crucial stage of your life right now and you are actually in very advantageous stage also ,because you are at an age where you can take on the real world yourself and at same time you have the backing of your parents.You have resource support from your parents ,you have financial support , you have emotional support you have a family basically .I want you to think to all of that as a launchpad which you can use to do what you want to do in your life.
The thing is longer you will leave your dreams and think that when in time everything is going to be perfect at that time i will start pursuing my dream or when i will earned enough
or when i will be married or when i will have this or have that,when you set those conditions that in future when this happens than i will start pursuing my dream it will never happens.
Because first of all plan fails things never go hundred percent according to plan.Second the thing which you cant do today how can you do ten years later.Why can't you achieve what you want to achieve ten years later today.Who is stopping you? What is the barrier?
Right now you have no responsibilities you have no duties , you are not married, you don't have kids , you don't have a house to run.But you are in age where you can get a pull to yourself into your dreams using a support system that you already have.
Chase time not money don't do a degree by thinking that it will land you a good job and you will earn a decent amount of money and that money is everything. NO Money is nothing trust me that, alright you can be the richest guy on the planet but if you are not living in tune with yourself if you are doing things that comes naturally to you, everything will seem like a bullshit.So before its too late i want you to think out for the life that you are leading yourself to.So remember that you must chase time not money because money can be earned and money can be spend blah blah blah .But you can't do shit to time.Its available but at the same time its not available.Its so limited that you need to focus on creating more time your life because you have to think in terms of earning time.
3. Detach From Your Parents
Learn how to detach yourself from parents.And what i mean to say is that how i see society nowadays is that most of us are basically grown up children walking around.Even at the age of 25-26 sometimes even upto the age of thirty we are not really detached and become soul wholesome individuals to our functioning and contribution to our society.I want you to think that today if somehow you are in middle of a jungle without your parents support in terms of money,in terms of emotional support ,in terms of the love you get from them , in terms of the sense of belongingness that you feel with them .Could you be able to manage your living?could you be able to survive?
You always have in back of your mind that you can always fall back on your parents. I want you to let go of that and want you to work on the path where today if you have nothing in your life including your parents even though that is a very scary thought, that you can stand on your own two feet and you don't have to worry about anything else.That is where i want you to head towards.I don't want you to head towards better body, i don't want you to head towards getting a better girl all of that should be supplementary to making you a man who can be friend for himself as well as care for others if need be.
Alot of time what i see is even if guy's get a girlfriend they start using the girlfriend almost as a mother or a sister that is not what should be happening.You should be manly first and for most to be able to become a man and then everything else should derived from that.Then your approach towards everything will change your approach towards life,your approach toward the work you do, your approach towards the kind of girl you want in your life.All of that will change because it will come from higher sense of purpose.Because your goals will be different it won't be just about getting a hot girl, it won't be about getting a six pack and getting 200 likes on Facebook.Its gona be much deeper than that and i want you to think about that.
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