When is the right time to start dating
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Today I will try to press your neurons a bit because not thinking about thinkable stuff has became a habit of our society and if you try to push that bar then you will have to face this society, we all want to date someone but do we ever give a thought about what's the right time to start ?
So like you people i am also a straight person i too go outside to roam ,see many beautiful girls admire them but there is one thing which i add to it i.e i tell myself that yes she is beautiful ,has a good dressing sense,rest everything is also too the point,so the reason why i am happy about seeing her or having this experience in my life is because all this thing is happening from a distance. I don't know about one single thing i.e i am not having a single connection or interaction with that person and i am just absorbing her beauty ,and having a positive feel about that and on the same time some can feel biologically that she's amazing !! At that point what extremely can happen is said above after that she goes away , you move away and that's it.But sometimes one feels like we should talk to her,there is a urge in you which forces you to start conversation with the other person .
So at that time what one should do
Draw a evaluation about your age,about your goals , yes your 6 month goals your 3 month goals i.e your short term goals ,your long term goals, ask yourself can you afford a relationship?Do you really understand what relationship is? what the today's generation is doing ,these maggi loving children thinks that its very necessary to be in a relationship at this age!For them life is nothing more than entering into a relationship. let me tell you your complete life will gonna disperse when you will just enter into a relationship .Relationship is a full time job . After coming into a relationship you are connected with one person ,what you will feel is oh yes you are committed ,finally there is a person with whom you can do outing ,can do this can do that etc etc(all temporary happiness).Try to understand that person will going to take your rights(specially emotional) ,your control from your life.you can't be able to take your individual decisions in your life.Your each and every decision will be bothered by your relationship. I am not saying that it's wrong!!
What i am saying is that give it only when you are that much free .at this age (crucial phase)you are having a lot of responsibility on your shoulders i.e your personal responsibility ,your family responsibility,your dreams responsibility, your ambitions responsibility ,your age's responsibility.
Tell me one thing are you of 25 or above? doing a decent job ? Earning 2-3lakhs per month or more? if yes then you can definitely go for dating and if you are not dating at that time than i will say why you are not dating someone?At that time i will not be able to give you a single reason for not dating.
Why i am saying that you must do dating at that time because , at that time you have crossed that responsibilty phase of your life , you have achieved that stage in your life . But during teenage give a thought that what you are bringing in your life ,could you be able to afford it. What are your goals ?how much time you have to give for your goals on daily bases , could you be able to give time to that person ? See the biggest contradiction of the generation , they have to spend 7-8 hours on sleep ,5-6 hours on study than approximately 6-8 hours for school/college etc etc , and after that by making a girlfriend what they are getting out of it? Tell me one thing where you are having time for your girlfriend ?
You will definitely end up having a breakup , there will be more chances that she cheat on you , because you are not able to give her time ,then you will say she cheat on me .Try to understand when you will not be able to give her time , will not be able to do things for her , she is not being enjoying her life ,you just tied up her in a kind of a bond where she is not feeling comfortable.This kind of situation will lead her to take some shitty steps.
There is the biggest problem that you did't see yourself , the only thing is you want everything , you think you must achieve your goals,get best job in MNC's, a six to seven digit salary,should be placed in one of the best company,plus get most beautiful girl , and she should love you for entire of her life and rest everything everything we must get, because god has made you the most prestigious one.So everything in this world must revolve around you .Modi ji must be in your speed dial ,call you and ask you that if any problem is there tell me , i will see.
Now instead of getting quickly into so called relationship because of your adrenaline rush , which will lead to high mood swings , anger ,increase in level of anxiety and many more problems. you will feel like one day you are touching sky and other day falling deep into the earth , and because of your so called relationship you will not only lead to spoiling 2 lives but will lead to spoil 2 families, as you and your partner will not be able to give time to each other and their respective families.
Always keep one thing in mind " opening of champion is very easy but its always difficult to handle the hangover ", so if you think you are mature enough to handle the relationship,than you should definitely go for the move !!
Today I will try to press your neurons a bit because not thinking about thinkable stuff has became a habit of our society and if you try to push that bar then you will have to face this society, we all want to date someone but do we ever give a thought about what's the right time to start ?
So like you people i am also a straight person i too go outside to roam ,see many beautiful girls admire them but there is one thing which i add to it i.e i tell myself that yes she is beautiful ,has a good dressing sense,rest everything is also too the point,so the reason why i am happy about seeing her or having this experience in my life is because all this thing is happening from a distance. I don't know about one single thing i.e i am not having a single connection or interaction with that person and i am just absorbing her beauty ,and having a positive feel about that and on the same time some can feel biologically that she's amazing !! At that point what extremely can happen is said above after that she goes away , you move away and that's it.But sometimes one feels like we should talk to her,there is a urge in you which forces you to start conversation with the other person .
So at that time what one should do
Draw a evaluation about your age,about your goals , yes your 6 month goals your 3 month goals i.e your short term goals ,your long term goals, ask yourself can you afford a relationship?Do you really understand what relationship is? what the today's generation is doing ,these maggi loving children thinks that its very necessary to be in a relationship at this age!For them life is nothing more than entering into a relationship. let me tell you your complete life will gonna disperse when you will just enter into a relationship .Relationship is a full time job . After coming into a relationship you are connected with one person ,what you will feel is oh yes you are committed ,finally there is a person with whom you can do outing ,can do this can do that etc etc(all temporary happiness).Try to understand that person will going to take your rights(specially emotional) ,your control from your life.you can't be able to take your individual decisions in your life.Your each and every decision will be bothered by your relationship. I am not saying that it's wrong!!
What i am saying is that give it only when you are that much free .at this age (crucial phase)you are having a lot of responsibility on your shoulders i.e your personal responsibility ,your family responsibility,your dreams responsibility, your ambitions responsibility ,your age's responsibility.
Tell me one thing are you of 25 or above? doing a decent job ? Earning 2-3lakhs per month or more? if yes then you can definitely go for dating and if you are not dating at that time than i will say why you are not dating someone?At that time i will not be able to give you a single reason for not dating.
You will definitely end up having a breakup , there will be more chances that she cheat on you , because you are not able to give her time ,then you will say she cheat on me .Try to understand when you will not be able to give her time , will not be able to do things for her , she is not being enjoying her life ,you just tied up her in a kind of a bond where she is not feeling comfortable.This kind of situation will lead her to take some shitty steps.
There is the biggest problem that you did't see yourself , the only thing is you want everything , you think you must achieve your goals,get best job in MNC's, a six to seven digit salary,should be placed in one of the best company,plus get most beautiful girl , and she should love you for entire of her life and rest everything everything we must get, because god has made you the most prestigious one.So everything in this world must revolve around you .Modi ji must be in your speed dial ,call you and ask you that if any problem is there tell me , i will see.
Now instead of getting quickly into so called relationship because of your adrenaline rush , which will lead to high mood swings , anger ,increase in level of anxiety and many more problems. you will feel like one day you are touching sky and other day falling deep into the earth , and because of your so called relationship you will not only lead to spoiling 2 lives but will lead to spoil 2 families, as you and your partner will not be able to give time to each other and their respective families.
Always keep one thing in mind " opening of champion is very easy but its always difficult to handle the hangover ", so if you think you are mature enough to handle the relationship,than you should definitely go for the move !!
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